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In spasm - how or what to do for fear of the pain..

In spasm - how or what to do for fear of the pain..

by Timothy Zaborowski -
Number of replies: 1

I have been in the program 3 weeks. I have followed it completely and I have read all Dr. Sarno’s books . I have had some better days until today. I could feel the pain being more and more distracting . This evening I was not able to get up out of a chair and in the severe pain when I get the spasm . I instantly get the fear of what to do. Scared to sit or get in bed , but needed to get I to bed . Afraid to turn over for the severe pain. What do I do now ? I tried talking myself through the pain but with the frustration and fear I am not sure what to read or listen too to help through this . Any help or thoughts are appreciated . How do you deal with the fear of the pain ? 

In reply to Timothy Zaborowski

Re: In spasm - how or what to do for fear of the pain..

by Howard Schubiner -

Yes, this is a common issue. Fear is the problem; not the pain actually.

It's fear of pain that drives pain. So, now you are directly feeling that fear. That is good. Allow yourself to feel that fear, see if you can localize it in your body; observe it; watch it; see what it does; how it shifts or moves; or tries to overtake you. Separate from it. Know that it is your brain just trying to scare you. It can't hurt you at all. It's just a feeling; it's not really anything wrong or anything dangerous; just a feeling.

Listen to the meditation on my website called Mindful Awareness Exercise, which talks you through this process.

You're not trying to get rid of the fear! Don't make it your enemy. It is there to protect you and help you. Right now, it is just not needed to be so strong. You can sit with it and focus on it and then on your breath and then back to the fear sensations; see how they shift or change; get better or worse. Remember it just doesn't matter if they do get better or worse; you're just watching and observing.

All of these sensations will pass. You are fine. Be patient; be kind.

Best, Howard