MBS Blog 13
The layers of wellness: levels of coping with TMS/MBS
I have spoken to so many people who are frustrated that their TMS symptoms have not gotten better yet. They have read so many accounts of people who have read Dr. Sarno’s books and immediately gotten better. They wonder why they haven’t had the same response. This can lead to increased worrying: worrying about what’s wrong with them, if they really have TMS or not, if they are making themselves sicker by worrying, and this vicious cycle can go on and on.
On the TMS Help Forum and other web sites, there are many excellent suggestions about methods of self-help and books that people have used to vanquish their TMS symptoms. Most of these are great resources and can be helpful to many.
I was talking about this the other day with a good friend and excellent psychologist, Mark Lumley from Wayne State University. He and I actually ended up writing a little poem about the layers of work that many people may need to do to get better. I must warn you, neither of us are poets, so the so-called poem isn’t very poetic. But we like it because it means something important to us. Here it is.
Things to do:
Notice what has been hidden;
Understand what has been a mystery.
Speak what has been unspoken;
Confront what has been avoided.
Accept what needs to be accepted;
Forgive what needs to be forgiven.
Change what needs to be changed.
Howard Schubiner, MD and Mark Lumley, Ph.D.